when i link you something
when i link you something
Every time you reach some happiness, it seems that life pushes you back to sadness again. Just keep pushing the bar towards happiness! It’ll get easier eventually. c:
Another Chibi photoset for the backers of the Channel A kickstarter! I’m really pleased with this bunch.
My name is Rosie. I’m 22. I grew up in Texas, about an hour south of Austin. I’m the oldest of 4 children; the child of teachers; on my way to be a teacher as well.
I’m a fan of Sci-Fi and Fantasy, of anime and manga, of magical girls and pirates. I’m a fanfic writer and reader, a con-goer and a casual cosplayer. I’m a nerd girl and a feminist.
I like Star Trek and blueberry muffins and really sweet tea mixed with lemonade and cowboy boots and my pet snake and playing N64 games.
And I’m bisexual.
In a lot of ways, my bisexuality is one of the least important things about who I am as a person. In other ways it is incredibly important. Being a bisexual woman changes the way the world treats me, the way our society treats me, and, sadly, it changes the way that fandoms and nerd culture and the media treats me.
And let me just say this: Fandoms, you really suck sometimes.
Before you click that read more, know this: I don’t speak for all LGBTQ+ fans. I speak only for myself, but this is as honest as I really know how to be, and I think that it’s something that should be said.
Another reminder that fandom can be at turns amazing and terrible.
Everyone is trying to figure out their place in the world, and some do it through fandom. Don’t try to take that away.
Blow up some ships. You’ve earned it.
how do i soft serve
It’s always a (VERY rare) treat to be able to use analogue screen tones. Working on an illust for the lovely guys over at Starline Publishing. 🐟🐟🐟
So Jason Collins is a hero because he’s gay? Our standard for heroism has dropped quite a bit since Normandy.— Ben Shapiro (@benshapiro)
I genuinely dislike @benshapiro— Chris Evans (@ChrisEvans)
Chis Evans meets my standards for heroism.
Well, he is Captain American AND the Human Torch. Doesn’t get much more heroic than that.
Ben Shapiro deserves the people who read Breitbart.
I’m pretty sure “hero” isn’t a binary distinction; some heroes are more heroic than others, and okay, charging machine gun nests has to be way up there. But it did take actual courage for Collins to come out, and guys like Ben Shapiro are part of why. A professional athlete publicly admitting to being gay ought to be an unremarkable non-event, but we’ve apparently got some more progress to make before that can happen.
True Facts About The Introvert
I’ve said it many times before, but it bears repeating:
I try not to judge things by their more annoying fans. This is because if I did that with any consistency at all I would wind up hating EVERYTHING EVER and have spend my time staring at a blank wall, at least until I found out how awful some of the blank wall aficionados really are.
I mean, the stuff I could point to in D&D fandom alone. Do you want to know about why some people are VERY ANGRY about “dissociated mechanics”? The answer is no, you really don’t, even if you think you do. There are some annoying Homestuck fans, but whatever you’re into, it has some terrible fans too. But you know what? Chances are your fandom has some really awesome people in it as well. Just like Homestuck.
In my ongoing quest for the perfect framework for understanding haters, I created The Disapproval Matrix**. (With a deep bow to its inspiration.) This is one way to separate haterade from productive feedback. Here’s how the quadrants break down:
Critics: These are smart people who know something about your field. They are taking a hard look at your work and are not loving it. You’ll probably want to listen to what they have to say, and make some adjustments to your work based on their thoughtful comments.
Lovers: These people are invested in you and are also giving you negative but rational feedback because they want you to improve. Listen to them, too.
Frenemies: Ooooh, this quadrant is tricky. These people really know how to hurt you, because they know you personally or know your work pretty well. But at the end of the day, their criticism is not actually about your work—it’s about you personally. And they aren’t actually interested in a productive conversation that will result in you becoming better at what you do. They just wanna undermine you. Dishonorable mention goes to The Hater Within, aka the irrational voice inside you that says you suck, which usually falls into this quadrant. Tell all of these fools to sit down and shut up.
Haters: This is your garden-variety, often anonymous troll who wants to tear down everything about you for no rational reason. Folks in this quadrant are easy to write off because they’re counterproductive and you don’t even know them. Ignore! Engaging won’t make you any better at what you do. And then rest easy, because having haters is proof your work is finding a wide audience and is sparking conversation. Own it.
The general rule of thumb? When you receive negative feedback that falls into one of the top two quadrants—from experts or people who care about you who are engaging with and rationally critiquing your work—you should probably take their comments to heart. When you receive negative feedback that falls into the bottom two quadrants, you should just let it roll off your back and just keep doin’ you. If you need to amp yourself up about it, may I suggest this #BYEHATER playlist on Spotify? You’re welcome.
** I presented The Disapproval Matrix to the fine folks at MoxieCon in Chicago yesterday, and they seemed to find it useful, so I figured I’d share with the class. It was originally inspired by a question my friend Channing Kennedy submitted to my #Realtalk column at the Columbia Journalism Review.
This is the second-most-important thing Rachel ever told me.
If someone says it’s wrong to hope, I will tell them that they’re wrong every time. I could tell them that countless times!
i dont even know what to say just fuckign take it
The Third Impact